When you start dating someone new, the number one thing you start thinking about is probably when you should make your relationship official. Wondering when to start calling that dude you’ve been hooking up with your boyfriend can be super stressful.If you say it at the wrong time, it can destroy any chance of a future relationship – but the same thing can happen if you wait too long. Well, a recent study done by both Zoosk and revealed something a little bit surprising about when to make things official.It’s true that being overly available can seem desperate or unattractive, but the last thing you want to do is play dating games.
Let’s get one thing straight: That discomfort you feel? It exists due to the simple fact that things are NOT SET YET. Don’t suck the life out of it in an effort to make it shelf stable.
If you’re still with this guy 10 years from now, there will be a point, sooner than you think, when you’ll wonder where the magic went.
They took a look at over 1,000 girls and 1,000 dudes and this is what they found: 25 percent of women think that you should wait “at least a few months” before making things legit, while 43 percent of guys thought “it takes a couple of good dates.” So, how do know when to make your sort-of-relationship an official relationship? Here’s something important that you need to remember: you have every right to ask the dude you’ve been hooking up with what he wants and if he’s interested in being your boyfriend. I’m siding with the guys here: it’s best to wait until after a couple of great dates and hang out seshs.
I know too many girls who are too afraid to ever bring up the Big Talk because they’re worried that it’s going to scare the guy off. Listen, girls: if bringing up the r-word (relationship) is really going to scare the guy off, then he was never interested in seriously dating you to begin with and waiting longer was most likely not going to change that. If a guy is interested and worth your time, he’s not going to go running out the door when you ask him about being boyfriend and girlfriend. Don’t be all like, “BE MY BOYFRIEND” in the middle of a first date, okay? Wait a few weeks, after you guys have been hanging out for a little while.
How exactly do you go from dating someone casually to having a serious relationship with them? What qualities made you want to get serious with your date? Being self-aware of how others perceive you is a huge advantage in dating and relationships.
To make yourself a better partner, think about your past relationships.In Break-Up 911, my online course, I’ll show you how to effectively experience it so you can get on with life as quickly as possible.Come find confidence and optimism when you need it most!Holding off to avoid judgement is ridiculous – how can two people have sex at the same time but only one of them does it too soon?Any guy who loses interest in you for having casual sex “too soon” is not worth having around.This nervousness and thrill is par for the course—and trust me, you’ll miss it when it’s gone.